Just 18 Summers
Over the weekend I read an interesting article on Facebook that I have been thinking about a lot. It was an article about “22 Things Every Mother and Daughter Should Do At Least Once” .
My oldest daughter just started her final semester of high school and I will be honest, it is REALLY HARD for this mama. I have shed more tears over this girl in the last few months than I thought was possible. Watching her take her senior pictures, her first Cross Country meet of the season, her last Cross Country meet of the season, her first basketball game of the season, etc., etc.
Most of them are happy tears, they really are. I am so excited for her next adventure and I know she will be ready to go, but it will not be easy for me to let her go.
When I read through the article about things every mother and daughter should do at least once, I feel blessed that we have done a lot of things on the list, but I feel like my time is running out. Now, I know that it isn’t like she is leaving forever, but after she leaves, I know that things will be different.
I have 18 Summers with each of my girls before they start making decisions that I don’t have quite as much control over. I can’t go with them to college, they can’t make their decisions about their future careers based on what I want for them. I won’t be there to make sure they go to bed, that they eat healthy and they clean their rooms.
As my girls grow up, our relationship changes, and that isn’t a bad thing, it is just different. So, I am making sure every moment counts.
One of my love languages is gifts. I am not a mom that believes in replacing all gifts for experiences. I think it is important to show people how much they mean to us or just that we are thinking of them by giving them thoughtful gifts.
However, I believe that the gift of time has been super important to my girls. It doesn’t have to be a vacation, it can be as simple as spending time in the kitchen, watching a movie or playing a board game.
So I decided to create a Mother-Daughter bucket list for 2019. Not everything on the list will get done before graduation, but hopefully we can get everything done before 2020. Some of the things on the list I will do with the girls individually, but a lot of things we can all experience together.
My girls are a little older so I added some fun things for teens, but most everything could be done with younger kids, too. Also, most of the things on this list don’t cost much. Experiences with your kids don’t have to mean extravagance.
Some of our favorite family memories happened in our backyard, in our kitchen or at the dining room table, and some of the things on the list are things that I know will be easy because the plans are already in the works.
Print out this list or make your own list, but be intentional with your kids this year. Post it somewhere that you see it and it is a reminder of the simple things you can do together to make memories.
And by the way, you are never too old to build a snowman. Especially in South Dakota.